This blog post is based upon my podcast episode "I Didn't Mean It Like That !" — Why You Still Owe An Apology Most people have heard it. "I didn't mean it like that!" "My intentions were good!!" As a trauma therapist, I hear this a lot; not as a genuine repair attempt, but as a reason to avoid accountability. And when it happens consistently in a relationship, it can become a serious problem. Good Intentions Don't Cancel Out Real Impact Here's the thing about intentions: they

It sounds compassionate, it sounds psychologically informed, and honestly — the spirit behind it is pretty solid. But I've been watching this phrase get applied in some really problematic ways, and I think it's worth setting the record straight.

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